How I Overcame My Stutter
After having years of unsuccessful speech
therapy I decided the only way I was going to achieve
fluency was to try and overcome it myself. Being a
negative thinker at the time I had little confidence in
my ability to succeed.
Most of my achievements in life up to this point
had been sporting and I asked myself the question, how
had I reached the high standards at these sports? What I
used to do was watch and study the best people in that
sport and to basically try and copy them, and with plenty
of practice and dedication, I gradually
improved.
I decided to take this approach with my speech,
I would concentrate on various good fluent talkers, Tony
Blair, Gordon Brown, Chris Tarrant, and Bianca from
Eastenders etc, and try and work out the differences
between their speech and mine.
The second approach was to deal with the
psychological factor. I needed to think and
approach life differently, gain confidence and to be
thinking in the same way as when I was "merry" after a
glass of wine, ie carefree. I started to read various
books regarding psychology such as mind over matter
publications.
It was slow progress, however I did notice
major differences in my speech compared to the
good fluent talkers and was practicing solidly to speak
more like them.
After six months of searching I finally had the
keys and techniques needed to achieve fluency, these are
what I now call the speech rules. For me, speech
is like a jigsaw and to be fluent you need to have all
the pieces to complete the jigsaw. A stutterer will have
at least one of the pieces missing. The speech rules are
the pieces of the speech jigsaw.
What I now needed to do was to put in a serious
amount of practice to enable these speech rules to become
a natural part of my speech. I did not know how long I
would need to practice for, however I felt after three
months that it was now more or less natural.
Success At Last!
Therefore in total it took me nine months to
achieve fluency, this is by far the greatest
achievement in my life.
It was now time to put my life in order. Even
though I had been successful at the insurance company
where I worked and was well remunerated, I was unhappy
there. I decided to leave with the intention of becoming
a financial advisor.
My girlfriend and I also decided to move to
Brixham in Devon from Birmingham.
The Move To Help Other Stutterers
Whilst looking for work I put an advert in
numerous newspapers in the Devon, and Cornwall area, with
the headline being "If you have a stutter, I am an
ex-stutterer who can help". I had quite a few responses
to the adverts, however not as many as I had expected. I
wrote handwritten letters to the people who had contacted
me and after only two weeks I helped my first client, a
fourteen year old girl from Exeter. I helped her over a
continuous five day period, her father was also present,
both were more than happy with the
results.
After two more successful five day courses, I
decided to put the career as a financial advisor on hold,
to try to make helping people to achieve fluency a full
time career. I set myself a goal for the first year of
helping fifteen people, by the end of that year I had
helped eighteen. I wanted to purchase a computer which
would help the letters to look more professional, I
bought a computer after about eight months. I felt I
needed a website and during the early months of year two
achieved this goal.
The Media Takes Notice
During June of 1999, I had my fifteen minutes of
fame. I was featured in Woman's Own magazine and
had articles written about how I had achieved fluency in
every national newspaper including a front page
appearance in the Daily Telegraph. I was interviewed
on Talk Sport, Radio 2, 4 and
5, and numerous local radio stations. This is
something I would have found virtually impossible only a
few years before.
Over the past six years (up to 2002) I have
helped many stutterer's to reach their goal of fluency
including people from Saudi Arabia, Sri
Lanka, South Africa and
Ireland.
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and highly effective stutter courses please
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